How You Can Learn to Be Patient

“It can’t be easy for husband and wife to be patient with each other every day. When you not marry yet, to be patient can’t be big problem for you. But when you get marry, this quality will help your marriage to be successful.”​—⁠John.

• Why you need to be patient?

• How you can show that you patient?

• “Patience really important”

Why you need to be patient?

• Marriage can make you to know the problem your husband or wife get.

  “When yor na stay long together, it can be easy for you to focus on the problems your husband or wife get. When you start thinking about it, it can make you to not be patient with husband or wife.”​—⁠Jessena.

• When you not patient, it can make you to talk before you think.

  “When I vex, I can just say anything. If I was more patient, I was coming to control myself without even saying anything.”​—⁠Carmen.

  The Bible say: “Love is patient and kind.” (1 Corinthians 13:⁠4) We can all agree that two people who love each suppose to be patient with one another. But it not always the case. “Like any other good quality that John talk about before, “it easy for patience to die down than for it to grow. So, we need to fight hard for it to keep growing.”

How you can show that you patient?

• When something you not expecting happen that test your patience.

  For example: Your husband or wife say something bad to you. The first thing that can come in your heart, that to say something bad too.

  Bible advice: “Do not be quick to take offense, for the taking of offense is the mark of a fool.”​—⁠Ecclesiastes 7:​9, footnote.

  How you can show that you patient: Before you say anything, just tell yourself that your husband or wife not mean it to say something to hurt you. The book Fighting for Your Marriage say, “Most of us can react to the way we understand what our husband or wife say, than what they really mean.

  

  Even if your husband or wife was trying to make you vex, when you control yourself and not say or do anything bad, it can help to solve the problem. Proverbs 26:20 say, “Where there is no wood, the fire goes out.”

  “Soon you start feeling that your wife is your enemy, stop and think about why you love her and try to do something good for her right away.”​—⁠Ethan.

  Something to think about:

  • What you can do when your husband or wife say or do something you not like?

  • The next time something like this happen, how you can show that you more patient?

• When something happen over and over that test your patience.

  For example: Your husband or wife always late, and you can stay long waiting until you get vex.

  Bible advice: “Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely.”​—⁠Colossians 3:⁠13.

  How you can show that you patient: Try to put your marriage first. Ask yourself, ‘When I make this problem big, it will help our marriage or it will spoil it?’ Know that “we all stumble many times.” (James 3:⁠2) It mean that you yourself get things to work on too.

  “Sometimes I can be more patient with my friend than my husband. I think the reason that because, I can spend more time with my husband and see all the problems he get. But patience part of the quality of love. And that one way to show respect. So, it important in my marriage.”​—⁠Nia.

  Something to think about:

  • You patient with the problems your husband or wife get?

  • How you can show that you more patient next time?