Continue to Make Your Husband or Wife Your Best Friend

1. Wetin make good friend to be gift from Jehovah?

GOOD friend da gift from Jehovah. (Jas. 1:17) They love God, and they love us too. When we happy, they can be happy. And when we feeling bad, they can comfort us. They can also give us advice the right time. Good friend can always help us and we can trust them. Da this kindna friend dem can “make the heart rejoice”!—Prov. 27:9.

2. Why it important for husband and wife to continue to make their friendship with each other strong? (Matthew 19:6)

² It important for husband and wife to be close to each other. They mon remember da they need to apply effort to make their friendship with each other thick. If they not do thing dem da will help them to stay close to each other it, they will not be happy and they will start feeling lonely and even getting vex. But if they continue to try their best to make their friendship with each other strong, they will enjoy the best friendship da two people can ever enjoy. (Read Matthew 19:6.) In this article, we will see how husband and wife can continue making their friendship with each other strong. But first, let talk about how single brother and sister dem can find marriage mate who will be their best friend for life.

HOW YOU CAN FIND MARRIAGE MATE WHO WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR BEST FRIEND?

3-4. Wetin will help somebody to find good husband or wife? (Proverbs 18:22)

³ Before we make any important decision, we need to think about the good side and the bad side. Some important decision dem can change our whole life. It can either make us happy or make us to suffer. So we need to think good-good before we make important decision.

⁴ One of the most important decision we will ever make in our life da to choose our marriage mate. Why? Da because the person we will choose will be our friend for the rest of our life. So it good for us to follow Jehovah advice when we want find somebody to marry because da he the one start marriage. Jehovah always know what good for us. He want the man to find good wife, and he want the woman to find good husband. (Read Proverbs 18:22; Isa. 48:​17, 18) The advice dem in the Bible can help Christian to find somebody who will be good husband or wife for them.

5. When you want get marry, why it important to choose somebody who baptize?

⁵ When we get baptize, we can become God friend. (Ps. 25:14) So if you want get marry, you mon choose somebody who already Jehovah friend. (1 Cor. 7:39) When you do it, you will show da you respect what Jehovah want and you will see your mate to be blessing from Jehovah. (Prov. 19:14) It will also save you from the problem dem da can come when Jehovah Witness marry somebody who not Jehovah Witness. (2 Cor. 6:14) Even if you not find any Jehovah Witness da you want marry, don’t think about marrying somebody who not Jehovah Witness. Don’t even think da it good to date da kindna person with the hope da they will be Jehovah Witness one day.

6-7. What some question dem you mon ask yourself about the person you dating?

⁶ Even though it good to marry somebody who baptize, but it not mean da any baptize brother or sister will be good marriage mate for you. If you dating somebody, it will be good to ask yourself some questiona dem like: ‘How he can treat his family member dem? He somebody who can respect people and he care for other people? Who his friend dem? Wetin he can do when people not agree with him? He always like for people to do things the way he want it or he can be willing to listen to other people suggestion so long it not against the Bible? He somebody da can put money business first in his life?’

⁷ You can also ask yourself this question dem: ‘The person I want marry can show da he get deep love for Jehovah? He trying his best to get the “new behavior da God can give”? He will help me to continue to make my friendship with Jehovah more strong? We get the same goals to do more for Jehovah? It looking like we will be best friend?’ (Col. 3:​9, 10) If you sister, ask yourself: The brother I dating will be my best friend and good family head? (1 Cor. 11:3) If you brother, ask yourself: The sister I dating will be willing to support me and respect the decision dem I will make even though I will make mistake sometime? You will need time to answer this question dem. So use the time yor dating to know the person you want marry.

8-9. Wetin will help somebody who dating to make good decision? (Also see the picture.)

⁸ It will not be hard to make good decision if you try to know the person good-good. Ask other people about the person. Maybe you can ask other people about the quality dem the person get and what they think about him. For example, they know him to be humble, kind, and reasonable person? One sister name Sarah from French Guiana who marry one brother name Daniel say: “I ask other people about Daniel. For example, I talk to the brother who two of them wor living in the same house. I also talk with one elder in Daniel congregation and some brother and sister dem who know us good-good.” It also important to ask your date if anything happen to them before or now-now da you suppose to know about. Sometime it good to know it because some thing dem like da can bring problem in the marriage later on.

⁹ Maybe you not too sure if the person will be good husband or wife for you. Or maybe some mature brother and sister dem na tell you some bad behavior the person get. If so, take their suggestion serious. Because it will help you to know whether you mon marry the person or not.b Now let talk about wetin marry people can do to make their friendship with each other strong.

SPEND TIME WITH YOUR MATE

10. Why it good for husband and wife to spend time together?

¹⁰ When husband and wife spend time together, it can keep their friendship and marriage strong. They need to spend time together even if they busy people. Like da, they can talk about what happen during the day, how they feeling and wetin they thinking about. They can also show love to each other and do things together da they can enjoy doing.

11. Wetin can spoil the friendship da between husband and wife?

¹¹ Husband and wife who really love each other can always want be together. But to talk the true, it not possible for them to be together all the time. But it not safe for husband and wife to be far away from each other for long time. For example, some people na leave their family and go work in another country and they spend long time there. Even though sometime it can make them to get money, but to be far away from each other for long time can bring plenty problem in the marriage.

12-13. (a) Wetin some marry people na do to spend time together? (Also see the picture.) (b) How you mon look at your friendship with your mate? (See the box “What Mon be Your Mate Place in Your Life?”)

¹² See wetin some marry people na do for them to spend time together. Leah from Guam say: “Me and my husband can enjoy doing different-different thing dem together. When somebody invite us somewhere, most of the time we can go together.” Roxanne from America say: “Because we can be too busy, we can make schedule for the two of us to spend time together, the same way we can make schedule when we get other important thing dem to do.” (Compare Amos 3:3.) Damien who living in France say: “We na learn da it good to get interest in what the other person love doing. After some time, we ourself will start liking it.” (Matt. 7:12) And Katie from America say: “Sometime we can put our phone dem far away from us so we can pay more attention to each other.”

¹³ And the most important thing da for husband and wife to do things for Jehovah together. For example, one sister name Myriam from France say: “In the morning, each of us can do our Bible reading. Then we can tell each other what we learn from it, and how we can apply it in our life. I really love the time we can spend together. Another thing I love da to see how my husband really love Jehovah when we praying together.” Katie who we talk about before say: “We really like the time we can spend together in the ministry. When we hear each other talking about Jehovah, it can draw us close together. And we can also continue to learn new things from each other.”—Prov. 27:17.

STICK TOGETHER WHEN PROBLEM COME

14-15. Why husband and wife mon try their best to settle problem in their marriage? Give example.

¹⁴ Because we not perfect, marry people will always face problem in their marriage. In fact, the Bible say da marry people “will get problem in their life.” (1 Cor. 7:28) But when problem come in the marriage, the husband and wife mon work together to settle it. They mon also continue to get close friendship with each other. Why?

¹⁵ Let look at this example. If important building or something da get value spoil, the owner will try to fix it. Sometime, they will spend plenty time and money to fix it. And they will not give up even if they will take plenty years to finish fixing it. Why? Because da building or da thing really important to them. Da the same way all marriage really important. Even husband and wife who really love each other will still get problem in their marriage. But just how they can fix building or something da get value when it spoil, husband and wife can settle problem in their marriage. It can take time and hard work to do this one. But Jehovah will be happy when husband and wife try their best to make their marriage strong and stay together. (Mal. 2:16) When they do it, they will be showing da they not only love and respect each other but they also love and respect Jehovah who make marriage.

16. According to 1 Corinthians 13:​4-8a, wetin can help husband and wife who get serious problem in their marriage? (Also see the picture and the box “Some Thing Dem da Can Help You to Make Your Friendship With Your Mate Strong.”)

¹⁶ If problems come in your marriage, don’t be quick to separate. (1 Cor. 7:​10, 11) But you mon ask yourself this question: ‘Wetin else I can do to make our friendship strong?’ You can do research on what the Bible say about showing love, and think about how you can show more love by following the advice in 1 Corinthians 13:​4-8a. (Read.) Instead of thinking about leaving your mate, try your best to show more love to each other. Focus on what you yourself can do to make your friendship with each other strong again. Pray to Jehovah and ask him to help you. Look for some of our publications and videos da can help you to know what to do. You can also get advice from the elder dem or any mature brother or sister. The Bible say marriage looking like three rope tie together, and Jehovah da the strong and most important rope among them. So when yor do the thing dem he want, yor marriage will be strong.—Eccl. 4:12.

17. How people who want get marry and people who already marry can be happy?

¹⁷ Jehovah want all his servant dem to be happy, whether they thinking about getting marry or they already marry. So if you want get marry, take your time to choose the person da will be your best friend for life. And if you already marry, continue to make your friendship with your mate more strong. Try hard to settle problems in your marriage and depend on Jehovah to help you. When you do this thing dem, you will “enjoy life” with your husband or wife who you really love!—Eccl. 9:9.