HELP FOR THE FAMILY | MARRIAGE
Spend Time Doing Things Together
Plenty husbands and wives can find it hard to talk with each other. Even when they in the same place, it can be hard for them to lecture. What can be the reasons?
Why husband and wife can be together in the same place but not lecturing?
Tiredness
“We can really want spend time talking with each other, but sometime either me or my husband can be too tire. When I tire, it can be easy for small thing to make me vex. So, it can just be better for us to watch TV.”—Anna.
Distracted by electronic device
“Social media and online entertainment can take most of your time. It can even make you to not lecture with your husband or wife. Like that, it can just be looking like yor not in the same room.”—Katherine.
Different interests
“When my husband come from work, he can spend plenty time doing the thing them he like. I not get problem with him using some time for himself because he can work hard. But I wish we can spend more time together.”—Jane.
Work
“Because we get electronic devices, it can even make us to continue working when we home with our family. Most of the time I can be replying to e-mails and text messages from my working place, when I suppose to be spending time with my wife.”—Mark.
Wetin you can do
Know that it good to spend time doing things together, not only when you less busy.
Bible advice: “Make sure of the more important things.”—Philippians 1:10.
Something to think about: Your actions can show that you see your marriage to be more important than your work, or the thing them you like doing? You can only spend time with your husband or wife when you get chance?
Remember this: Don’t leave things to chance. Find time for you and your husband or wife to be together and lecture.
“When my husband plan for us to do things together, it can really make me happy. In fact, it can make me feel special, and it can help me to know that he want me to be with him. That why I really love him for.”—Anna.
Know when to use your electronic devices and when to put it down.
Bible advice: “There is an appointed time for everything.”—Ecclesiastes 3:1.
Something to think about: How many time text message from your device can stop you from giving attention to your husband or wife?
Remember this: Try to eat together at least one time every day. When you eating, the phones must not be with you. Eating together that good time to talk about the thing them that happen during the day.
When it possible, yor must do the house work or go buy things together.
Bible advice: “Two are better than one because they have greater benefit for their hard work.”—Ecclesiastes 4:9, footnote.
Something to think about: When yor want buy food or things for the house, yor can do it together or you can go on your own?
Remember this: Do things together even if that work one person can do.
“Instead of looking at going to the market, washing dishes, folding clothes and cleaning the yard to just be work, see them like opportunities to spend time together”—Nina.
Be reasonable
Bible advice: “Let your reasonableness become known.”—Philippians 4:5.
Something to think about: How you can show that you reasonable in what you expect from your husband or wife?
Remember This: Your talk with each other, and try to understand each other needs. Yor agree on how to spend time together in a way that will make both of yor happy.
“My husband still strong. But for me, I not feeling alright in the body. So most of the time, I can encourage him to go out and enjoy himself with his friend them. Like that I can stay home to rest while he go take exercise. When he come back, two of us can feel better because we did what we wanted to do.”—Daniela.
Discussion guide
First, two of yor must answer this question them on your own. Then after that, yor must discuss the answers with each other.
When it come to spending time together, how you and your husband doing?
What you will say about your husband or wife when it come to spending time together?
Wetin you will like yor husband or wife to improve on?
How many time your phone or other devices you get can make you to not pay attention to your husband or wife when they talking?
How yor can show that yor reasonable with each other?
What changes yor can make to get more time for each other this week?