HELP FOR THE FAMILY
How to Control Your Temper
Your husband or wife say or do something that make you vex, and you keep it in your heart. But then your husband or wife notice that you not looking happy and start asking question. It start making you vex bad way. When you notice that your temper rising, how you can control yourself?
What you need to know
If you allow your temper to control you, it can damage your health. People who study about human body say, when you allow your temper to control you, it possible to get high blood pressure and heart disease. It can also make you to always be feeling sad and not get interest in anything. And it can make your body to not digest food well. Vexation can make you not to sleep good, make you worry, cause skin problems, and stroke. That the reason why the Bible say: “Let go of anger. . . , for it can only lead to harm.”—Psalm 37:8, footnote.
If you hide your feeling when you vex, it can damage your health too. If you always like getting vex, it will be like you get certain sickness in you that eating you up. For example, it can make you to always complain about other people. This kind na behavior can make it hard for you to live with people, and it can even cause serious problem in your marriage.
What you can do
Try to see the good-good way them your husband or wife get. Write three things you like about your husband or wife. Then any time your husband or wife make you vex, think about the three things you write down. It will help you to control your temper.
Bible advice: “Show yourselves thankful.”—Colossians 3:15.
Always be willing to forgive. First, try to see things the way your husband or wife see them. It will help you to show that you care—and that what the Bible call “fellow feeling.” (1 Peter 3:8) Next, ask yourself, ‘What making me vex so serious that I can’t forgive?’
Bible advice: “It is beauty. . . to overlook an offense.”—Proverbs 19:11.
Be careful and take time when you expressing your feelings. Try to use “I” when you talking. For example, instead of saying, “You not care about me when you not call to tell me where you are,” say, “I can be worrying when it late and I not know if everything alright with you.” When you take time to express your feeling, it will help you to control your temper.
Bible advice: “Let your words always be gracious, seasoned with salt.”—Colossians 4:6.
Listen with respect. After you finish explaining how you feel, allow your husband or wife to talk too. And when they talking, just listen. When your husband or wife finish talking, say some thing your husband or wife explain to see whether you understand it good-good. Listening can help you to control your temper.
Bible advice: “Be quick to listen, slow to speak.”—James 1:19.